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Custody and Religion post divorce

by | Jan 12, 2017 | Custody & Visitation, Divorce, Firm News

When people get a divorce there may be a variety of reasons for the termination of the relationship. One party may practice one religion and the other another.  If children are involved the issue of the upbringing of the children and which religion shall reign supreme becomes a hot topic.  How can both parties post marriage raise children to share and participate in each parties religious practices if any. This complex question seems difficult to solve at first, however, after careful planning and willingness by both parties, with an open mind, the problem can be easily resolved. How so? Well if both parties determine that religious practice is a positive learning tool for their children and that religion is seen as a form of education and inner spiritual development for the child whether the child is Christian, Muslim, Hindu or Jewish the child can flourish with the practice of both types of religions.

Our modern day society demands that we have an open mind to all religious practices.  As post marriage parents, the parties must divide everything up equally and fairly, including how we go about teaching religion to our children.  As children are shared between the parents on different Holidays and Vacation times so too can the parents divide the religious holidays and practices among themselves.  Each parent can equal time with their children in the practice of their religion.

If parties decide that they cannot decide how to divide up or decide who will be able to practice their religion with the children then the Courts will have to get involved.  As a result the Courts will order an often rigid arbitrary schedule that neither parent will feel is effective in adhering to their religious practices.  It would not be in best interest to have an arbitrary third party determine the fate of a child’s religious experience.

If parents do not find a common ground or solution to their sharing of religious practices with their child the children will be short changed about how they will learn about each parents religion.  Thus it is imperative as a parent that they listen to the other parties side when it comes to their religious practice in order for them to benefit from a less restrictive approach to teaching their child their religion.

The child views each parent prospectively as Mom or Dad and not as religious figure.  If parents begin to realize that then religion should be more of just an experience shared by the children with their parents.  It should not be a competition as to who can inculcate their religious doctrine better or which religion is better for the child.

Luckily our society allows for both parents to have equal time to share all religious holidays equally.   Every parent has a right to teach their religious belief to their child and that is a good thing. Our forefathers in the Constitution made it a point to permit all people to practice their religion freely and that includes the right of divorced parents to share their religious practices each with their children.